What Makes Us Who We Are?

In classical psychology we are taught that we have an ego, a super

ego and an ID. As long as these things do not get mixed up we are

semi-sane and rational, and when one of these aspects of our personality

get out of order – it means that we have lost the plot. The super-ego is

the way you think of yourself when you are positive, the ID is what you

think about when you are negative and the ego is the real self.

So basically if you are not happy with yourself, or have too many

negative emotions you tend to go into either direction.

This is only one way to look at a thousand ways of seeing yourself.

You can see yourself as a one in a long list of lists of things. You may

think that you are a certain height – but you are one of a range of

heights, and you will struggle to find someone that is exactly as a tall

as you are, at all times. You may find someone that is as tall as you

right now, but just change shoes, fluff your hair or look upwards and

the length of both of you will differ.

So we are all different – not only in genetic material, but also in

how we express ourselves every day and in every way. By realising that

each one of us is different from another, we can start making some

practical progress. We do not have to worry about who we are – we can

just start looking to what we can do with our differences and how it is

either an advantage or disadvantage to us.

If you travel the world and you meet its people you will realise that

we are all different and we are all the same. We are all human and that

will never change. The basics that change in every moment and in every

situation, is how the complex interplay of life’s experiences elevates

us to have different emotions and how this translates into animating our

souls. Our culture and our being define us and we are ourselves and

collectively ourselves with our families, friends and social

environment.

Even in being different from each other, we tend to seek out people

that are similar to us in some way or form. We need to find

relationships that guide us, that challenge us and that allow us to

explore a little bit of who we are.